A New Mom’s New Year’s Resolution

December 28, 2017

Well, this has been a long time coming! I’ve had my heart set on creating my own blog for almost a year now, and I’m finally going through with it! I have a lot in my head and on my heart that I want to share with you all. Everything from how-to’s, tips and tricks, my favorite Amazon purchases, and devotionals. For my first blog, I’ve decided to jot down my New Year’s resolutions to keep myself accountable. Here goes nothing!

Cut myself some slack

I don’t know about the rest of you, but I put WAY too much pressure on myself to be perfect. The perfect mom, the perfect wife, the perfect friend, the perfect sister, daughter, employee, Christian, and the list goes on.

2017 was my first year as a mom and I loved every second of it, but I found myself feeling pressured to have my daughter hit certain milestones at the perfect time. From reading article after article outlining each milestone to seeing other kids her age hitting those milestones, I felt defeated. Then when I was about to go into full-on-panic, Google-searching Kayla mode, she’d hit that milestone. God has been consistently showing me this year that He is always in control and I have to trust in Him, and forget the idea that I somehow can be perfect or make everything around me perfect. Two bible verses come to mind:

He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. Ecclesiastes 3:11

Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10

In 2018, I plan on trusting in God more and me less. I pray that I can take a breath and remember how blessed I am.

Put God first

As I’ve mentioned, this was my first year as a mommy. And as I’m sure many of you moms out there know, baby often takes over your identity. I have to remember that my identity is found in Christ first. In 2018, I want a stronger relationship with God. I want to delight more in Him, in His word and in my prayer time. Only then will I be the best wife and mom I can be.

But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Matthew 6:33

Have a cheerful heart

As you might have guessed it by now, my blog is called the Cheerful Heart blog (check out the about the blog page for the whole story). In 2018, I want to have a cheerful heart and inspire others to have one too. Proverbs 17:22 says that “a cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones” – let’s meditate on this verse for a minute.

When you think of medicine you probably just think of a pill you take when you’re not feeling well or something a doctor prescribes to you, but when looking at the Hebrew translation of this verse it means healing. So having a cheerful heart can heal you?… let’s keep reading. In the Matthew Poole’s Commentary, he explains that the next part of the verse means that a crushed (or sad and dejected) spirit wastes away the marrow of the bones, and the moisture and strength of the body. Now that got me to thinking, what does our bone marrow do? Did you know that bone marrow produces blood cells, called read blood cells, platelets and white blood cells. We all know that the life is in the blood, so does that mean a sad heart can slowly kill you?

It seems that Proverbs 17:22 is trying to tell us that having a cheerful heart can heal you, but a sad heart will kill you. Now, I know that sounds dramatic, but think about it. We’ve all heard of those cases of people who were sick that lived longer because they were surrounded by people who loved them. The next question is, how do we get a cheerful heart? Besides the physical things we have and the people we love, where can we find our hope and happiness? I plan on continuing this thought in the new year, but for now, I’ll leave you with these verses:

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. John 3:16-17

Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4

Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. Romans 5:1-5

For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence, for my hope is from him. Psalm 63:5


Lord God, I pray that you would guide me in the new year. I pray that I would trust in you and know that you are in control. I pray that I would find peace, hope and joy in you in 2018. That I would spend time with you, draw closer to you and grow stronger in you. I pray that you would be with my family and show me how to be better for them. I pray that you would show me how to shine your light in the world and bring people to you. Lord, I thank you for your Son. I thank you for His sacrifice, and for loving me and dying for me when I did not deserve it. I pray that I would find my happiness in you always. Amen.

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  • Nidya December 29, 2017 at 1:15 pm

    Loved this! Beautiful reminders of the role Christ should play in our lives as wives and mommies!

    • Kayla December 29, 2017 at 9:41 pm

      Amen! Such an important reminder for all of us!

  • Diane Smutek December 29, 2017 at 2:58 pm

    Amen to all of this! I am right there with you , Sister, struggling with perfectionism. I need to remember daily that this struggle is in vain & that my God who never fails me has my life in His hands. Thank you for sharing these verses. I plan to write them where my family can see& be encouraged & also to write them in my heart. I will pray for you as well, as you work towards these good goals.

    • Kayla December 29, 2017 at 9:42 pm

      Thank you, Diane! Share pictures of the verses in your home when you do it! Such a great idea!

  • Margaret LaGiudice December 29, 2017 at 9:30 pm

    Amen! Beautifully said Kayla. I look forward to reading your blog as well astrying to not be so perfect and to trust in our Lord. Love you and Happy Blessed New Year. Margaret

    • Kayla December 29, 2017 at 9:44 pm

      Thank you, Margaret!